Bradley’s Story

***Some people have trouble reading through Bradley’s Story because of the abuse he endured.  I urge you to at least scoll to the bottom for links to the youtube video Bradley and I created (he thinks he is a movie star, and is obsessed with the world seeing him, so if nothing else, look at it to keep his dream in reality).  There are also links for my new favorite book addressing this matter as well as to the facebook group to support keeping these kids safe.  Thanks!  **** ~Amy AKA: Daisy.

Bradley is our 9 year old son who happens to also carry the label of ‘classical autism’.  I call it a label because, honestly, Bradley ‘s personality has traits that fit the definition of autism… autism does not define Bradley.  Does that even make sense?  I guess what I am trying to say is that Bradley is an amazing kiddo, despite his label.

What do you see here?

Photo taken of my son’s back. I stumbled across this mark while I was examining the scratch on his arm. No explaination for this and no one will take responsibility for putting it there.

I am sharing his story with the world so that we can raise awareness for the abuse and mistreatment of mentally disabled individuals by their educators and care givers.  The person/people responsible for Bradley’s abuse are not being held accountable for their actions.  I want everyone to know that this DOES happen and it is important that we, as a society, do whatever it takes to keep these kids and adults safe.  They have a rough enough path in life as it is; they don’t deserve to be abused.  No one EVER deserves abuse.  EVER.

We are a military family and reside on a military installation.  All 4 of the older children attend Department of Defense schools (which means they are military ran).  We have been at this particular installation close to a year now… however, both of my autistic children are still not stable from our move.  Those who are not familiar with the characteristics of autism take note:  autistic children do not handle change.  Moving 1200 miles doesn’t work out well.

Since the move, Bradley went from thriving in a mainstream (typical) classroom with dedicated para support to totally shutting down.  He was placed in a self-contained SPED classroom full time.  As parents, we were very supportive of this decision.  Yes, it was a giant step backward, but our goal for Bradley is just like any other parent – we want our child to learn at school and the mainstream classroom was not working out for him at this point.

The classroom had 6 other students, Bradley made 7 with 5 adults.  Do the math, that is almost 1 to 1 ratio.  Academically, Bradley was doing very well, but we began noticing behavior problems.  Historically, at his previous schools, Bradley had some ‘rigid’ days, but he never had acted out in a way that required a restraint – EVER.  However, restraint became a commonality in his educational setting.  Interestingly enough, the school did not feel the need to contact me about the restraints.  The only way I was aware of it was through the report of my daughter, Haley, whom also has classical autism.  She was in a classroom across the hall and could hear Bradley screaming.  It is in her nature to be his ‘protector’ and she would witness some of the restraints because she would run to his aid.

March 25, 2012

Claimed by the SPED teacher to be an injury inflicted by her ring during a restraint.

The first notable account was in September.  Both children got off of the school bus hysterically crying.  I asked them what happened and Haley blurts out “they choked Bradley, they punched him in the eye, they were trying to kill him!”  Now, that sounds quite dramatic, but please understand, autistic children do have a skewed perception of what they see.  I looked Bradley over, and he had no marks on his eye or neck.  However, I wanted to know what happened that made my children so upset.  I took the children back to the school and requested a meeting.  The assistant administrator assured me Haley’s interpretation was incorrect.  She called the SPED teacher up who explained that Bradley was waiting in the line to go home and for some unknown reason went into a meltdown and he had to be restrained.  It took 3 adults to hold my son and he quickly resolved his tantrum once he was isolated in the classroom.  She said the incident only lasted 5 minutes.  I told them I wanted notification when he had to be restrained for multiple reasons.  A.  I want to know WHY you put your hands on my child and B. I need details to have a conversation with my son about what we could have done differently.   I thought I had made myself clear, but apparently not… don’t stop reading yet… the gut wrenching part is coming…

So, I passed it off as Bradley’s instablility has made his behavior regress.  As much as I hated it, I figured this was just part of having a special needs child.  There were multiple times Bradley was restrained following that, but nothing quite so dramatic.  Did the school inform me?  No.  Reports came from Haley and Bradley.  It became such a usual occurance that I would just tell Bradley, “well, tomorrow is a new day, we will try again.”

Mid-December, Bradley came home from school saying his side was hurt.  I knew an adult was aware of the injury because it was bandaged.  I asked him what happened and he said they held him down and hurt him.  I photographed both the bandaged injury and without – there were 3 scratches (consistent with finger nail marks) on his side.  When Haley arrived home from school, I asked her if she knew what happened to Bradley.  She said that they were “dragging Bradley out of the door” and he wouldn’t go.  She said his pants got pulled down in the struggle.  Apparently, they had a firedrill.  As usual, I received nothing from the school, so I called to get more information.  I was told everyone had left for the weekend and that it would be Monday before I could speak to someone.  Fabulous.  I was livid.

The following week, I was informed that the fire drill had set Bradley into a tantrum.  He had to be forcibly removed from the building and that is the struggle Haley described.  They had no explaination for the scratches.  Once again, I made it VERY CLEAR that I was to be contacted if my son had to be restrained and that I wanted an injury report for any injuries.

Things were pretty quiet following Christmas break.  At the end of March, Bradley’s teacher called the house.  It was 1:25 in the afternoon.  She said that Bradley had to be restrained and that he had an injury in the form of a scratch on his arm.  She reported that he was calm and doing his work.  While we were sad that our child had an injury at the hands of his caregivers, we were glad that FINALLY after 7mos of requesting, that the school was calling to inform us.  When Bradley arrived home from school that afternoon, he was agitated.  This is not abnormal for him when he has been at odds.  At 4pm, I examined his scratch.  It was high on his arm so in order to take a photo for my records, we had to take his shirt off.  This is when I noticed the handprint on his back.  Please note the time elapse… this was 2.5hrs AFTER we received the call that he was calm… and yet we still see this handprint on the child.  My first reaction was to take him to the ER.  However, Bradley was not willing to leave the house.  Taking him into a vehicle in this frame of mind is a MAJOR safety issue.  I decided to get an appointment with our pediatrician instead.  Apparently this was a mistake.  ***Always get immediate, official documentation*** 

Once my emotional response wore off, my rational self kicked in.  Questions began arising in my mind as to if these marks were ‘typical’ of restraint.  I mean, who wants to think that the people trusted to care for their loved one have hurt them? I have been told multiple times to seperate emotion from advocacy.  I began tapping into my available sources.  I sent some emails requesting opinions on these marks to Bradley’s SPED team from our last installation and to my parents.

I am not sure why I sent Bradley to school the next day.  As I sit here typing this, I am not really sure I can answer that with anything other than I was trying to keep his life stable and make sure I was not falsely accusing anyone.  He had a rough morning, but the school called me for ideas because the SPED teacher said that the ‘usual tactics’ were not working.  I gave her some ideas for motivation (such as our upcoming trip to the amusement park) and she said she would call back if they needed me.  I did recieve another call, but it was only to bring clothing because Bradley has a potty accident.

Bradley attended school the following day as well.  It was that morning that I received a phone call from the SPED teacher from our old installation.  She gave her professional opinion that these marks were not consistent or should be expected with restraint.  We had our appointment scheduled for that afternoon already and so I immediately went and checked Bradley out of school.

Once we were in the car, I could again tell Bradley was agitated.  I assumed it was because I interrupted his normal day.  In order to calm him, I began talking to him about his day.  This is when he said that a para had pinched him because he wasn’t doing his work.  My husband grabbed the ipod and we recorded the rest of this converation.  I pulled the vehicle over and examined Bradley’s tummy (where he was indicating that he was pinched).  There were not any marks on him.  He quickly got distracted and changed the subject.

We went to the appointment.  The pediatrician examined my photo and said that the handprint was consistent with a slap.  He measured and documented the scratch on my son’s arm.  He felt strongly enough about our case, he personally walked us up to the social work department and explained our situation.  We were seen as a walk-in.  I was interviewed by a social worker who said that they would be opening a case.

At dinner that night, Haley, asked me what happened to Bradley at school that morning.  I told her that I really didn’t know and that maybe she should ask him.  Again, we grabbed the ipod and recorded the conversation.  Haley said she could hear screaming during her history test.  (remember the pinching story?)  She asked Bradley what happened.  He responded with “they tie my hands and squished my feet.”  I was interested in what this meant… I asked Bradley to show us what this means.  I had my son, Ryan, lie down on the floor.  Bradley grabbed his arms and put them in an “x” across his chest and held at the wrists while sitting on the torso.  It sounds horrible, but this seems logical to me… I asked Bradley to show me what ‘squish my feet’ means.  He stood on Ryan’s ankles……..

We had a meeting with the school the next day.   Attending was the principal, special ed director, and the school district social worker.  We explained our concerns.  They wanted to know what we needed to keep Bradley in the school.  We requested cameras.  Why are cameras not in these rooms anyway???  We have non-verbal kids at the mercy of adults.  The school agreed to check into that, however, that is not going to be an immediate fix.  It was their goal to keep Bradley’s schedule as normal as possible.  We explained that we were NOT comfortable with Bradley being around the 5 adults that were in the room inwhich he was hurt.  Until someone came forward and took responsibility or told who was responsible, in our minds, as parents, they were all equally guilty.  We were told that they had a second self-contained classroom on this campus.  Bradley had spent time in the room from time to time already and was comfortable in that room.  It was across campus from his old room.  We felt that he would be safe there and that was a solution with the least upset to Bradley’s daily life.  We brought the ‘squishing of the feet’ issue to their attention.  They said they couldn’t see that as being possible and blew it off.  I figured I would save it for the investigator to figure out.

The next day, I put Bradley on his bus again.  I had explained to him that he would be in the other classroom for awhile – I didn’t go into detail as to why – I didn’t want to give him a reason to have the hate in his heart that I had for these people.  One of the things about my son, every day is new and he held no grudge.  So to school he went.  However, there was something that just didn’t set right with me in my gut.  I told my husband I was going to the school to check on Bradley.  I arrived at the new classroom and Bradley was there, alive, well, and breathing.  However, to my surprise, the entire SPED team from the old classroom was also in the room with him – they were doing a joint activity.  I withdrew Bradley from the school.  I was not allowing him to be around the very people that hurt him.  I had made that clear the prior day and the school failed to follow through with my request.

I went and spoke with the assistant superintendent.  Bradley was present at this meeting and I had him demonstrate what ‘squishing my feet’ means.  This person took it a little more seriously and reported it to the authorities.  I went to the military police station and made my statement.  I was given a criminal investigator who also took my statement.  He informed me that he had not been informed of anything other than the issue with my son’s feet – somehow the doctor’s report was never filed through the authorities.  The CID investigator said that they would schedule a forensics interview for Bradley and that these people could get kids to talk.  We were set up with a military social worker.  She interviewed myself and my husband (seperately) and declined to interview Bradley as she said that they would wait for forensics.  She did, however, tell me that they would have a committee meeting to see if the case met criteria for further investigation.  She said because my photographs were taken at home and not professionally, that they would not display them at the committee.

I felt like Bradley needed to talk to someone and give his side of the story ASAP.  I contacted the Department of Social Services in the adjoining county to the post and I was told that because this was on post and an accusation against the school, they could do nothing for me.  The military would take care of it.  I called the investigator to see when we could get in for this interview and I was informed there would be no interview – there was no need.  I questioned as to why.  He said because the handprint on my son’s back didn’t bruise, it was not abuse and therefore nothing criminal had been done.  As far as Bradley’s statement of ‘squish my feet’, the named person walked with a cane and couldn’t possibly have done it and he was therefore closing the case as far as he was concerned.  Now, I am sorry, if this person was unable to stand unassissted, she would be wheelchair bound.  A cane is merely for balance on occasion correct??  I was heartbroken.  The social worker spoke with Bradley for 10ish minutes.  I have no idea what was said.  Considering he doesn’t really speak to people he doesn’t know, I doubt he said much if anything at all.

The committee meeting was held and it was concluded that the case didn’t meet criteria.  They said that the handprint was unfounded.  The person/people who hurt Bradley are still in that classroom with the remaining children.

I can’t get any help.  Not one public service agency I have contacted is able to do anything on post.  I attempted to contact an attorney, but since it is a federal case, they won’t touch it either.  If there happens to be an attorney reading this that might want to represent Bradley, feel free to contact me.  I am not looking for a freebie, I have money and can pay fees, I just need someone willing to stand up for us.  I have went to every possible agency on this post trying to get assistance and have been given the run-around.  I contacted our local Senator and was told they don’t have jurisdiction on a military installation.  I was given contact information for our Congressional Representative, but have yet to get a return call.

All this being said, I have two things to ask of you.  FIRST AND MOST IMPORTANT – LISTEN TO YOUR CHILDREN.  question and question them again.  Make sure all the pieces fit so that if they are being hurt at school (or anywhere else) you can put a stop to it.  Secondly, please share Bradley’s story with your friends and family.  I want the world to be aware that this DOES happen.  Awareness might just be the key to keeping another child and family from going through the pain that Bradley has.  If you have a story to share with me, feel free to contact me at a dedicated email I have set up for this purpose:  helpprotectourkids@yahoo.com  I will take all these stories with me to congress when I get an opportunity to meet with my Congressman.

As terrible as Bradley’s Story is, sadly he is not alone.  Many readers of this blog have contacted or left comments and shared their own story (check through the comments on the bottom).   I have been contacted by author, Richard Stripp Sr who wrote a book “Mommy I Wish I Could Tell You What They Did To Me In School Today” addressing this very matter.  His unique point of view was from working within the school system with these amazing children and he is retelling the story of 10 children through the eyes of the child; what they would likely tell mommy if they only had the ability.  He backs their ‘thoughts’ up with what he actually witnessed as a caregiver and the steps he took to correct it, only to be shunned by the very system put in place to protect these kids.  Sound familiar?  Well, this is the case with almost every family I have been contacted by – most of the abusers are STILL IN THE CLASSROOM.  This book is an excellent read whether you are a parent, family, or caregiver.  You can find out more about this book by following this link.  http://www.mommyiwish.com

***If you really want to be proactive and make a difference, write your local congressman/woman and share Bradley’s story.  (Folks from around the world… if you don’t have an American Congressional Representative, borrow mine.  Bradley won’t mind and we will kindly share.  http://www.house.gov/htbin/findrep?ZIP=28307 – her contact info is on this page.)  Request that they put into legislation a law that would require ALL school districts to have cameras in their SPED classrooms.  These kids need a voice to speak for them.  A camera is unbiased and will be that voice….

Bradley and I have created a short youtube video to help spread the word.  I am by no means trained in the art of videography, so ignore the fact I wasn’t staring directly into the camera – I was reading from cards the hubby was holding, but the point is made – his story is shared and I have told the world what they can do to help keep these kiddos safe.  Please take time to view it – if for nothing else, because Bradley says he is a ‘movie star’ and it will make his day to know that the world has seen him.  He was very interested in the fact that the video would reach people in other countries.  http://youtu.be/roc-E4jK754

Thanks for reading this novel… *hugs* ~ Daisy

The link to the facebook group that we have created in support of Bradley and all children who don’t have a voice for themselves:  http://www.facebook.com/#!/groups/348527931869401/  join, add your friends and family….

73 Comments (+add yours?)

  1. Stephanie Rolston
    May 07, 2012 @ 23:44:43

    You did a Great Job on writing this Amy and it will help fight the fight! I will be passing along and I will be sharing Bradley’s story!

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    • daisypetals2000
      May 07, 2012 @ 23:46:51

      Thanks Stephanie! I had it all written this afternoon, published it and it lost like the last 2/3 of it! I had to start over! lol. But it was important and worth it! 🙂

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      • Kim
        May 12, 2012 @ 23:40:14

        Ask your husband to write a letter to his congressman of his home state on record in the military. Then stand back because there will be a through investigation from the congressman’s office. You will see the military jump when a congressman wants something. But the letter has to come from the military serviceman.

  2. Cass
    May 08, 2012 @ 01:56:13

    My son was emotionally abused by his teacher (he is severely developmentally delayed due to his birth at 24 weeks gestation) and his teacher is still teaching. Even though she has several students (mostly ones with special needs) removed from her class. We are stationed in the UK and also use DODs schools. I had no idea until another parent of a “normal” child called to tell me the very upsetting story about my son and the fact that it was known that my child was bullied by this lady. I also went and signed him out that day when I heard of it and changed his classroom. Amazing how his once lacking grades became A honor roll worthy afterwards. But better yet, his self esteem skyrocketed.

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  3. monica nowak
    May 08, 2012 @ 07:33:28

    You did a great job telling your story! I wish I could say I don’t know what you are going through but I can relate on so many levels. You are right we definitely need to raise awareness of this type of abuse! My child is nonverbal and wasn’t able to express what was happening. We need to change these events from happening! I would suggest maybe getting the media involved.

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  4. Christina Robinson
    May 08, 2012 @ 08:39:18

    What an amazingly sad story. You wrote it perfectly.

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  5. Rona
    May 08, 2012 @ 08:52:14

    I am so sorry that this happened to you and your son. Those adults should be ashamed of themselves and why is the military allowing them to continue to teach. I am a public school teacher and have never seen any abuse of our mentally or physically challenged children. I am ashamed that these people call themselves teachers.

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  6. amanda
    May 08, 2012 @ 10:21:10

    They put camera’s in Day Care’s why can’t they put them in schools? Doesn’t make a bit of sense to me why they can’t do this!! I hope y’all get someone who will help! 🙂

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  7. Dionna Cruz
    May 08, 2012 @ 10:31:32

    You did such a good job in telling Bradley’s story. I am spreading the word.

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  8. Donna
    May 08, 2012 @ 13:36:13

    I feel so bad that this is happening. I have to admit that as a parent you are very in tune with your child and his needs. That is a wonderful thing. I hate that this is happening to your child. I wish that you would get a resolution to this cause no child needs to go thru this. Autism or no autism, no one deserves that kind of abuse. May God bless you and your family. And may you find the help you need to get this abuse stopped.

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    • daisypetals2000
      May 08, 2012 @ 16:54:55

      Thanks Donna! I have pulled Bradley out of public school and will be home schooling him. He will be safe from now on. I am just hoping that I can raise enough awareness from parents and familes to watch their children and maybe, just maybe this might reach the right person to get action taken. I really want to see cameras in the SPED rooms. That is my ultimate goal. A parent should have peace of mind when sending their child to school…

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      • Stacie
        May 10, 2012 @ 08:18:52

        Daisy, our story is similar to yours other than the restraints. Parents really need to listen to the children, take note of changes in behavior & not worry about offending people by bringing forth concerns. I am now of the mindset that I will offend anyone & everyone if it means my son is safe. He is also home schooled as a result of the abuse he took at school

      • daisypetals2000
        May 10, 2012 @ 15:47:49

        Stacie, feel free to forward me your story to helpprotectourkids@yahoo.com. I feel like the more examples of this happening I have the more fuel I will have for my push for cameras…

  9. Stephanie Turlo
    May 08, 2012 @ 14:47:59

    As the coach for a Special Olympic swim team and the sister of one with Autism, my heart goes out to you. I have seen the injustices that go on in the system and I’m sure ones within the military are much worse because of all of the rules and regulations. However in saying that, I believe that the government should be held responsible for those they choose to employ. There should be more stringent requirements and screenings for those positions. If they fail to protect our children from those monsters, then they should take fault for it. It sickens me to think that those in the position of a teacher or an aide in that sort of classroom would be anything but supportive and caring. I agree with Monica – this needs to be brought out to everyone, but in a way that will bring about change, not just rage.

    I do have one bit of wisdom for you: NEVER, EVER stop fighting for what is right! Your son and daughter need you to be their rock, their voice. I commend you for doing so because I see so many that choose to turn a blind eye. Thank you for speaking out and sharing your story.

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    • daisypetals2000
      May 08, 2012 @ 16:52:53

      I know how frustrating it is dealing with a child with special needs. I get it. I have two and sometimes they feed off one another’s tantrums so I have them both in a fit at the same time. However, as a parent, I have to know when I need a break. I put each in their ‘safe spot’ (which is their bedrooms) and go take a few deep breaths myself. Now, that being said, why isn’t there a policy in place that gives the caregivers the same ability? I mean, I am the mother, I have a love connection, so I can only imagine how frustrating it would be to have someone else’s child on your last nerve. I am guessing that the person reached their limit and just snapped. Maybe that will part of my request as well.

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  10. justme
    May 08, 2012 @ 16:19:46

    couple suggestions. The DJ (DJ Ponch) at mix 93.3 in Kansas City is big on raising awareness on autisim, try to send your blog to him. Contact the radio station, get his email, as that dj has the ability to reach thousands of people. Also, have you looked into getting a case manager involoved? They maybe able to help by being in his classroom. I believe the Pawnee Mental Health in Junction City might be able to direct to where to go. Lastly, I would try to be partnering up with social work groups or meetings. They might be able to take you down avenues (for the intent of passing this story on) that you had never dreamed possible because many of them work with autistic children and are trying to also raise awareness. Your story maybe what they need to shed light on this very sad and unethical situation. Sorry this is going on and I hope and pray your story will help bring more light to this issue. One more idea- you might try pinning your story to pinterest in hopes more people will read it and it can hopefully make the chages your looking for! Good luck. You are an amazing mom, as many do not take the time to look out for their kiddos and try ot make a change!

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    • daisypetals2000
      May 08, 2012 @ 16:43:13

      Thanks for the tip! I am actually from the Kansas City area… my parents are in Platte City (northland). I will do. 🙂 We have a case manager… and well… ya. Anyone I show these photographs to has the same reaction that you all have – they are horrified. They promise they will do it all to help and then magically their efforts get stopped. This is why I feel that this is being covered up. I am tired of it and that is why I went public with it. My child has every right that every other child has… he is not a second class citizen and he has the right to justice. We are no longer in the Fort Riley area as we PCSed last year, but I have been in touch with our local Autism Society as well as our State Chapter. We are waiting on a response from them as far as what resources they can provide us with. I love the pinterest idea… will definately post it there as I am a pinterest junkie. Thanks again for all your support and suggestions!

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  11. Katherine
    May 08, 2012 @ 16:24:02

    have you went to your local news outlet? I know alot of times they will take your story and really get the word out there!

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    • daisypetals2000
      May 08, 2012 @ 16:45:42

      That is on my list for this evening. Our day has been hectic with appointments and withdrawing my son from school – I have decided to home school him for his future safety, but it is defintaely coming. I know some of my friends have sent this link to national news outlets and Nancy Grace. I am going to take time to write a request myself. We will see what we can get going. People need to know. Thanks so much for your support! *hugs*

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  12. Tamara Mottau
    May 08, 2012 @ 23:27:10

    Thank you for sharing your story. As a mother of a child who has high maintenance autism and also a assistant to teachers in the classroom to a range of “disabled” children this brought tears to my eyes. it only takes some patience and time, and things like this can be avoiding, if an adult can not handle the stresses of caring for our children under the conditions stated then they should NOT be in the situation to care for them; we trust that our child or children are being taken care of when not with us. it is hard enough to let them go, esp if they are faced with any kind of disability. I am so sorry that your family had to be put through this kind of ordeal and I would be happy to do what I can to get this story out, My son samuel has been verbal abused and often looked at and treated different because of his autism the world needs to see our children as no different then anyone else. my heart and prayers with you all

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    • daisypetals2000
      May 09, 2012 @ 11:54:53

      With the growing numbers of the autistic population the world will eventually become tolerant of those different from the ‘norm’, but it sure would be nice for them to be a little more understanding. These people are very special – many are experts in their field of ‘obsession’. I know Bradley can tell you things about African animals that the experts only know. How he obtained this information, I have no idea. 🙂 They are quite interesting people if you just take an opportunity to get to know them. I think having a relationship with my autistic children has enhanced my life – it has given me a different perspective and i look at life in a completely different way. 🙂

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  13. Tracy
    May 09, 2012 @ 00:00:07

    Im close to the K.C. area and have had similar issues only my daughter is M.R. not autistic and 26 yrs old and out of school but had a recent situation happen to her involving her old high school teacher and para.Too much to type but im behind you on this I say its time these stories hit the media.

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    • daisypetals2000
      May 09, 2012 @ 11:59:40

      Tracy, if you would like to email me privately with your daughter’s story, I would love to share it formally when I get a meeting. It is terrible that these people are able to hurt our kids and nothing be done. Regardless of disability, it shouldn’t happen. We need to protect this population. They are such an easy target because of the limited communication and mental abilities. It is wrong on so many levels. I hope your daughter is okay from her situation and is able to move forward in life. My family is in Kansas City and they are working on getting things going there. My parents are FURIOUS. daisy_petals2000@yahoo.com or helpprotectourkids@yahoo.com. I am checking both regularly.

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  14. Cammie Henderson Burke
    May 09, 2012 @ 08:23:41

    I’m so sorry this happened to your family, and I’m so angry that those people are still working with children. Thank you for sharing your painful and heartbreaking story. There are entirely too many of these stories happening every single day, and that’s only what is actually reported. The number of cases that are not known must be staggering. There absolutely need to be cameras in these classrooms. As parents, we would be arrested on the spot for what these “professionals” get away with, it’s disgusting! I want to join the group, but the link is not working for me. Is there a name I can find it under? I hope your sweet boy is not suffering lasting effects. My thoughts are with you both.

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    • daisypetals2000
      May 09, 2012 @ 12:08:45

      Cammie, the group is called Help Protect Our Kids. I am not sure if it is searchable or not, because I have added everyone that I know so when I type it in, it pops right up. I have sent a message on FB to a Cammie Henderson Burke (in hopes I contacted the correct person) with a direct link through facebook. I will repost the link here on the blog to hopefully get it to work. 🙂

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  15. Tracy
    May 09, 2012 @ 12:17:34

    Okay I will email you.Thanks!

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    • daisypetals2000
      May 09, 2012 @ 12:28:32

      No problem! 🙂 I look forward to hearing your story. Besides, writing is very theraputic and I assure you, I have told anyone and everyone that would listen. It helps.

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  16. Tracy
    May 09, 2012 @ 13:26:00

    That it is although my hands are numb now lol jk.Email sent but alot more to the story and way more past incidents too.Glad to hear from you!

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  17. Joy Easley
    May 09, 2012 @ 17:29:12

    Thank you for sharing your story! It has helped open my eyes. My youngest child has Cerebral Palsy and will be entering the public school system in two years. I am absolutely appalled that this is happening so frequently, but now I will know what to watch for when it comes time for him to be in school.

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    • daisypetals2000
      May 09, 2012 @ 17:41:09

      Joy, if Bradley ever enters the public school system again (I have pulled him out and am currently home schooling him), I will be doing ALOT of unannounced, sparatic visits. If they never know when you are popping in it is less likely that they will do anything wrong. Know that not all SPED teams have these sorts of people on them. Bradley has been in the public school system since age 2. He has had a phenominal team in 2 different Kansas schools. He never once had to be restrained and never once came home with any marks on him PEROID. As a matter of fact, I am still in contact with the majority of them. So be aware of the possibilities, but at the same time know that there are alot of good people out there working for these kiddos.

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  18. Josie Cuneo
    May 09, 2012 @ 19:36:31

    I am so sorry to hear what happened to your son. I work with the child of one of your friends and she told me what had happened. Have you contacted COPAA yet?
    (Council of Parent Attorneys and Advocates). COPAA connects parents with attorneys who advocate on the behalf of children with special needs. Their attorneys focus their work completely on the rights of special education students and ensuring they are recieving the education and services that they need. Though I dont have a child with autism, I do have a child with some special needs and I have consulted with COPAA in the past about a situation that occurred in her CDC and they were extremely helpful with getting things taken care of. Here is there website… http://www.copaa.org/ I hope you get the answers you need and that Bradley is placed in a classroom with teachers/paras who love him!

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    • daisypetals2000
      May 09, 2012 @ 21:58:55

      Josie, thank-you so much for that info! No, I have not been in contact with that organization, but I certainly will be! I have decided to take Bradley out of public school for his safety and my sanity. Thanks again for the info. I deeply appreciate it!

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  19. Nicole
    May 09, 2012 @ 21:55:10

    Hi Daisy. I have a child with autism and I am on the board of the Autism Society in our state. Do you have a disability law center near you? They specialize in the ADA and disability rights. I think this is reprehensible and honestly made me cry to know that there are people out there like this. I hope you can get some justice!

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    • daisypetals2000
      May 09, 2012 @ 22:34:47

      Nicole, thank-you for your support. I actually have gotten in touch with the Autism Society of North Carolina and they have gotten me in touch with their parent advocate. She is going to meet with me in person in the near future to discuss her suggestions. Maybe she would know where our closest disability law center is. Thanks for that tip!

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  20. Michelle Brito Pacheco
    May 10, 2012 @ 14:20:25

    Amy, This really touches me? Knowing that this happens to kids…
    Don’t stop, take it as far as you can! Michelle

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  21. Tiffany
    May 10, 2012 @ 16:26:42

    Wow, I am so sorry for what your child and so many others have endured! I do not have a special needs child of my own, but my 3 year old brother is autistic. I will be sharing your story. I hope that I can help!

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    • daisypetals2000
      May 10, 2012 @ 16:36:16

      Thank-you Tiffany!!! I sincerely appreciate the support! I am in the process of sending this story to every news station I can come across in America. The world needs to know…

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  22. Jacquie
    May 10, 2012 @ 16:30:52

    My jaw is on the floor right now. My son is a 9 year old high functioning autistic. There is no way my son could tell me if anything bad was happening to him because he doesn’t understand that bullying/abusing/etc. is a bad thing. I am so fortunate that we have had a brilliant and wonderful team of therapist, aides and teachers. Having all these people molding your child you really need to have a strong sense of security and trust in them. For that to be irreparably shattered for you is devastating to me….I can’t imagine how you feel 😦 I am screaming inside for you. Let me know if there is anything more I can do. We will be keeping this posted on FB and our blog for many days to come

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    • daisypetals2000
      May 10, 2012 @ 16:38:51

      Thanks Jacquie! I am encouraging everyone to write their Congressional Representatives requsting to put cameras in ALL SPED classrooms. These children need a voice. I don’t feel that Bradley will ever get justice for what was done to him, but at least if we get cameras in the classrooms it will prevent this from happening to anyone else. These children/adults are not second class citizens – why are they being treated as such???????????

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  23. Linda Buss
    May 10, 2012 @ 17:02:51

    This is so sad! My son has severe Autism and is non verbal. We too had an incident at his previous school. My daughter-in-law was at the school and heard Ben screaming. She called me and I ran up to the school, 3 blocks away, They had him in a small janitors room and the principal and the nurse were practically laying on him to hold him down. I have not ever heard my son sound like that. It was horrid! I told them to get the hell off of him and that he had a fear of being held down. He was drenched with sweat and when they got off of him he went limp and was non responsive, even to me. I was terrified! I finally got him up and had to help him out of the school. I discussed this with a professional and asked what caused Ben to react like that and they said it was so traumatic for him that he “checked out”. How scary is that? We could have lost him and never would have known how or why if my daughter-in-law would not have heard him. These kinds of things should not be happening to our kids!

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  24. MrsTeachart
    May 10, 2012 @ 18:32:06

    Being a public school teacher, (Elementary age 5-11) the thought of people like that calling themselves teachers just makes me sick to my stomache! Our school works hard everyday to make our special needs kids transition comfortably from home to school and still like any kids with emotional disorders it can be rough at times and even loud. I can’t imagine EVER… putting your hands forcefully on a child though no matter the reason. We have a system in our school where if there is a child has an issue that could become harmful to other students in thier room an announcement comes over the com. and calls for team A, B or C to go to where needed, and a variety of 8 teachers some male some female of all personalities head that way speedily and help remove unaffected students and then surround the student in about a 15ft wide circle and wait out the situation. Usually theres lots of talking to the student and reminders of good behavior rewards, mostly they are there to make sure the situation doesnt move to a place it could harm another student but NEVER would a staff member ever try to defuse the situation physically. Seeing the picture of the handprint on Bradley’s back almost made me physically ill, because being a mother of a young child myself I can’t even imagine what I would do if i saw that on my son.
    I look at the kids at my school and i dont see another student passing through, I see my children passing through, each and every one of them. I may not have given birth to all 800 of them but they will always be my kids, and i try to treat them with as much support and caring as I would my own son. I will be printing out Bradley’s story and posting it on the board at school in the teachers lounge if only to remind us everyday there are more children out there that need good teachers, great friends and just people who will be there for them always. Thank you for sharing.

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    • daisypetals2000
      May 10, 2012 @ 18:46:04

      Thank-you for being such a good teacher! We have been very fortunate in the past years to have WONDERFUL SPED teams! Bradley had NEVER had to be restrained physically until we moved to Ft. Bragg last year. That is 7 years in the public school system – there has to be a reason this has started. We were never comfortable with it – we don’t do this at home and I would NEVER expect it from school. It makes me sad… but what is even worse is that I have recieved stories from parents all over America with their heart breaking stories of what happened to their child. This happens ALL the time and it needs to stop! This is why I am on a crusade to get these cameras in all SPED rooms… that way, these children have a voice.

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  25. Tracy Hutchings
    May 10, 2012 @ 21:02:41

    My son is 4 years old and non-verbal autistic. The only word he can say is “ma.” I am so nervous about sending him to kindergarten, since still does not have bladder/bowel control. I have been reassured by his preschool teachers (whom, me and me son adore) that it is a great program that he is going into. However, it does not relieve fear of not knowing! I wish you and your family well, I will share your story!

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    • daisypetals2000
      May 10, 2012 @ 21:18:14

      Tracy, it is hard enough to send any kiddo off to Kindergarten, but I totally understand your weariness. Maybe if you know his placement for next year, you might be able to go spend some time in the classroom now. Maybe it would give you an opportunity to see what his day is going to look like and give him an opportunity to see what his environment will be like. It might also give you a change to get to know the staff…

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  26. Aussie Mummy
    May 11, 2012 @ 05:10:51

    I can’t read it all as it hurts me too much. YES I have been there , yes it has happened to my boy possibly both boys. They got away with it. They seem to always get away with it. I am devastated for our kids especially our non verbal kids who this happens to. Other people just do not understand what it feels like when your up against a school of ‘professionals’ making you feel like crap, making you feel stupid, making you feel like your over reacting about every single thing but deep down inside your soul you just know it, you just know something is off off off because WE , us parents, KNOW our kids best! “THEY” even go as far as to label us parents as “trouble makers” if we question things, extreme things mind you! “THEY” will gossip about us parents at school , sometimes in front of our very clever non verbal children. “THEY” think its ok to do that and more to our kids. I homeschool now and my children will NEVER step foot inside another school again because I now know without a doubt I can NOT trust others, especially people in positions of power with my children as long as they cannot speak and tell me whats going on. These people take full advantage of NON VERBAL children and until there are CAMERAS in every single school that has special needs children then it is simply not safe for those kids to attend! God bless you and your beautiful children, if I could reach through my computer and hug you I would especially hug your beautiful boy xox

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    • daisypetals2000
      May 11, 2012 @ 06:49:06

      Oh yes, I know I am the ‘evil one’ throughout the school… even the new school seemed stand-offish. It was because they, themselves, had not been informed as to why I pulled Bradley out of the first school. When he came home with brusies on his arms last Monday (I didn’t even add this to his posted story) that were clearly from an attempted restraint, I withdrew him from the new school. I told them they needed additional training and that the reason Bradley was placed in their care in the first place was because of abuse at the old school. I told them of the handprint on his back and they were all shocked. I think MAYBE at that point, I went from “evil troublemaking witch” to a human being… but I am right there with you Aussie Mummy, how in the world could i EVER trust someone with my child again?????

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  27. Katherine
    May 11, 2012 @ 06:18:30

    Daisy- I sent an email about a specialist here at Womack who may be able to help! We must make people aware of what’s going on, and this particular doc is world renowned. When she talks people listen!!! Contact me!!!

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  28. tammy
    May 11, 2012 @ 10:33:25

    Wow what a story. My Scotty was abused at a daycare here in town. AND she still works there. He was only 1 when it happened and like you I had proof from a dr… Makes me sick:(

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  29. Carol Perry-Stringham
    May 11, 2012 @ 10:53:38

    Amy:
    I read this and wanted to cry. I am so very sorry Bradley had to endure the treatment he received from education professionals. School is supposed to be a safe setting for our children. I have an abuse story, too, but mine isn’t at the hands of school personnel:
    My 12 year-old daughter, Mackenzie, has PDD-NOS and attends our local public school in a mainstream classroom with specialized classes. We went through the transition from elementary school to middle school this past September and I truly believe it was harder on my husband and me than it was on Kenz. Our experience hasn’t been from abuse by a teaching or para member, but by one of her classmates. Last year, she came home from her elementary school and went into the bathroom. She called to me. I could tell by her voice she was distressed. She told me she had a “rash” on her legs and was scared. Upon closer inspection, the rash was actually straight lines of broken capillaries; deep bruising. Kenz has never been one to cause self-inflicted cuts or bruises to herself. She may do her rocking or hidden hand flapping, but never anything to hurt herself. She had four sets of lines down the tops of her thighs. I told her it wasn’t a rash that it was bruising. I asked her who hurt her that day. She told me a girl in her class had been picking on her for quite some time and that on that particular day, Kenz was sitting on a desktop and this girl kept jumping on her lap and sliding off of it. Kenz became very agitated as she relayed the story to me. She had told her to stop, but she only laughed at her and continued doing it. My daughter DOES NOT LIKE TO BE TOUCHED so I knew she would have never instigated nor approved of what this other child was doing to her. My husband was on his way home from picking up our older daughter. I couldn’t contain the panic I was feeling. I called him on his cell phone and discussed it with him. I can be very overprotective and I sometimes need to talk to him almost as a means to ensure I’m not overreacting. His reaction was the same as mine, but he said he was nearly home and he wanted to take a look at what I’d described. He told me to call the school and see if her teacher was still there. I did. He wasn’t in his room, but the secretary offered to transfer me to the school nurse after I briefly told her what I’d found on Kenz. The first thing nurse did was suggest Kenz had self-inflicted the marks because they sounded like scratches to her. I again told her that the lines were indeed broken capillaries and that the lines weren’t consistent with scratches. I also reinforced the fact that Kenz had never hurt herself that way EVER. When I told her what Kenz had explained to me, we both knew instantly that it had to have been from those big metal buttons that were on the back pockets of jeans. It made perfect sense. They were thick and in position to cause bruises consistent to what we were seeing. Like you, I took photos.
    What transpired next is an even longer story. The outcome, the student that did it wouldn’t admit to it and no one in the classroom saw it happen. The girl received no disciplinary action–not even a phone call home to her parents. It was Kenz’s word against hers and since Kenz is “special” her word wasn’t good enough even though another student came forward and reported seeing the same child to other things to Kenz to tease her in a bullying fashion. The incident was brushed aside as if it never happened.
    I learned a valuable lesson from that experience and told our school principal that if there was a future incident, the police would be called in and they’d be hearing from our special education advocate and the lawyer he works with. I also told him that if my child had gone INTO SCHOOL complaining about her legs and they discovered it at school, they wouldn’t have hesitated calling CYS on my husband and me.
    You have your “novel” (as you put it) and I have mine. The parents of special needs children have to stick together and share our experiences so that others can learn from it. It will be through our discussions that future improvements can be made in school settings so that our children are safe and in a healthy environment. Thank you for sharing your story!

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  30. Marilyn Derocher
    May 11, 2012 @ 13:23:24

    Mercy, Mercy, Mercy….hard to type through the tears. I have an 11 y/o son on the Autism Spectrum with several additional disorders. He is high functioning, as the label goes and in main stream classes. I get so aggrevated and irriatated with so-called educational professionals who have little to no respect for the children who do not fit neatly into their boxes and labels. I think that cameras should be in all classrooms because mistreatment of children with special needs is not contained in a special ed room alone. My favorite phrase is …”I wish I were a mouse in the corner….” because I really want to know what happens. What actions or events transpire to send my son into a tail spin and cause him to shut down and become unresponsive? What leads up to getting a call from the school because he is out of control and the classroom had to be cleared?

    I don’t care about boxes and labels; about this disorder or that; about this disability or that ability. What matters most to me is that our children are safe and properly treated with respect and compassion.

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  31. Maggie Tamulis
    May 11, 2012 @ 13:30:18

    Hi Daisy…I am a 66 yr old grandmother living in a small rural town in northern Iowa…back in the 80’s I worked for an agency that had several group homes for mentally disabled adults…in the 90’s I also worked one year for another agency that had disturbed children and teens, I worked the nite shift in the home with the teenagers…one thing that was very clear from the work experience in both agencies is how often there are counselors, teachers and other caregivers who want to use the “power play” with the adults, teenagers and kids…by “power play” I mean because they were in the “position of authority” they would use the person’s acting out as an excuse to punish them or restrain them and often the people in charge would provoke the person in to acting out in order to prove their authority…I have taken some college courses but I don’t have a degree and I was hired by both agencies because of my age and experience…what I’m trying to say is after my experiences in both working environments it became clear to me that there are people who work in “positions of authority” where they work with people who have disabilities or difficulties which puts them at the mercy of the authority figures…now I question why the employees want to work with persons who need a special type of interaction in order to create a stable environment for the people…in fact it seems that they often have little respect for the people they are in charge of…as strange as it may seem I also saw some of the same situations when I worked with our Veterans in a VA hospital, not with the Veterans as patients but in a department that processed civilian health care charges for the Veterans and in my work I encountered employees who really didn’t respect the Veterans and in fact resented the amount of care the Veterans received…the only answer I see to this problem is supervision and monitoring of the workplace…also I suggest that screening potential employees to a greater degree might eliminate those potential employees who are not really fit to work with people who need special care and attention…the other thing needed is more information on problems encountered from the people themselves and/or those who are their family or advocates…if you find the agencies themselves can take care of the abuse then by all means use that route but in the case you describe or other cases where there doesn’t seem to be any response to the complaints then perhaps the media is the route to go…in your case you have used the internet but others can do the same or use newspapers, television programs and advocacy groups…I know you are frustrated but hold onto your strengths and keep your eyes on the goal and above all don’t let others force you to give up your fight, we all have a right to be treated with dignity and care…!!!
    Personal note: I can tell how frustrated you are about the treatment of your son and believe me I do feel deep sorrow for the situation you and your family find yourself in…it’s hard enough to deal with the challenges that life throws our way without some people making life more difficult, perhaps they have no sympathy, perhaps they can’t relate but whatever the reason is they should not be allowed to continue their unkind and sometimes hateful actions and those over them should not make excuses for them or protect their jobs but rather recognize the abuse and relieve them of their positions right away…!!! A friend…Maggie

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  32. benjamin
    May 11, 2012 @ 14:02:23

    I work with developmentally disabled individuals. There are a few steps that you maybe able to make.

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  33. Stephanie Kirwan
    May 11, 2012 @ 22:24:06

    I have been reading about too many things like this happening to other autistic and special needs children, it needs to stop! And it really irks me that nobody will help. Thankfully I haven’t had to go through something like that and hopefully never will. I am sharing this link so that other people can be made aware. I hope you get the representation that you need and deserve to have.

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    • daisypetals2000
      May 12, 2012 @ 09:01:16

      Stephanie, I am about to give up on getting true justice for Bradley – I can’t even get our local news stations and news papers to touch this story. In truth, it seems that I am the only one to take on the US Army to get justice for Bradley. Maybe that does deem me as crazy. That is okay. I will be crazy in terms of my son. Anyway – I hope and pray that no one has to endure a situation like this – however, sadly, without the cameras in the classrooms the abuse and neglect will continue. Since I can’t get true justice for Bradley, my best form of closure will be that I have prevented it from happening to thousands of others. I am going to INSIST they install those cameras. Thanks for your support!

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  34. Alissa Arp
    May 11, 2012 @ 22:56:03

    I know this was tough to do, but THANK YOU for sharing your story. I have shared on many pages. I will do all I can to share this story, raise awareness and change DOD policy. My son attends a DOD school at Fort Knox. Unfortunately, I have heard similar stories about the SPED programs here. Praying for your family!

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    • daisypetals2000
      May 12, 2012 @ 09:11:24

      Alissa… I can’t thank-you enough for your support… I am not sure if it is DOD policy to allow abuse or someone is just too lazy to fix it. I then wonder if it has anything to do with teacher tenure or bonds of friendship. I can’t imagine even WANTING to be friends with someone who hurt children. I know there are some amazing teams in some of the schools…. Bradley was fortunate enough to have one at Ft. Riley and in Kansas City when we lived there. I find it sad that there are so many kids being treated like this because they are not able to tell anyone. 😦

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  35. Beth
    May 12, 2012 @ 00:05:04

    I feel for you. My son has autism as well, but cannot tell us what happens….we have been fighting the school all year. We too, were military ,but, the teachers we had in SC at the base school were outstanding. My son thrived. My husband retired and we live in Ga, we cannot believe the change, at one point they were going to handcuff him.He had a sore arm he held, we took him to the Dr and discovered he had a fractured arm.They send him home when the don’t want to be bothered , they put him back in pullups that we send for accidents,he completely went backwards. This school has send him back years.We too, were told most of what you were……I am so sorry for everything your son has gone through.We r still fighting, my son is we are told will be in a next school for the following school year.Thank you for sharing your story, I hope everything works out for your family and people realize our children deserve respect and kindness too

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    • daisypetals2000
      May 12, 2012 @ 09:16:49

      Beth, I am going to be creating a page on the blog dedicated to stories of abuse such as your son – would you mind if I included your story on that page?
      I am so sorry for what your son went through – A broken arm? Unbelivable. Did the school offer any excuse for that? Is there an excuse at all that would be acceptable? WOW… I know our PCS set my daughter back years… she is 10 and acts 5 in many ways… sometimes 2. For example, one time, she threw one crazy fit at bedtime… crying, kicking, and screaming for like an hour and a half. She wouldn’t speak to me just cry. I was pulling everything I could out of my hat trying to figure out what was wrong with her and come to find out, she was hungry. Now really? Wouldn’t it have been much more simple to say ‘hey mom, I am hungry?’ (she is verbal) I have to say both children are much calmer since I took them out of school. I know that they were both under a tremendous amount of stress there and I am not sure why…. probably will never know outside of the pictures on this blog…

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  36. Rena Nims
    May 12, 2012 @ 12:17:40

    As an SLP in public schools, worked in 4 different states, numerous districts, TOnS of children with Autism on my caseload…I am dumb-founded, appalled, shocked, and severely heart-broken this has happened to your son! I think this is abnormal for most educators are loving and wonderfully caring to those in their care. I am NOT saying it hadn’t happened…listen to your children! I would NEVER continue to send my children there…homeschooling if need be! I am SO very sorry & you are right! Something needs to be done immediately to prevent it from happening again. Btw the restraint you mentioned is a common, taught restaint…sitting behind child…avoid head hits, wrap child’s arms across their tummy as you hold their wrists with your hands…teacher legs are then wrapped over child’s legs, teacher interlocking their ankles. IF ankles are held (rarely) it is down with hands of anothe teacher….the entire idea of restraint is to keep EVERYONE safe & free from harm….most times it is better to have a “time-out” room to allow the child to regroup & calm down by themselves…I even have seen gym pads be hung on walls and put in floor for child’s safety. DO NOT STOP your search for correction of this particular system!!! God Bless your family & your special babies!!!!

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  37. Pam Olson
    May 12, 2012 @ 15:12:44

    I don’t know what state you are in but you have a federally-funded Protection & Advocacy Agency that can investigate and possibly file complaints on behalf of your son. You can find the contact information by going to: http://www.napas.org/. This is the National Disabilities Rights Organization. There is a US map on the right side of the page and if you click on that it will bring up the contact information for your state’s P&A.

    You can also contact the U.S. Department of Education, Office for Civil Rights and speak to them about filing a complaint.

    Hope this hlops.

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  38. Linda Persaud
    May 13, 2012 @ 14:03:26

    Wow..My heart droped reading this. I have a son who has autism. He is 10 years old, with limted verbal communication and dosn’t know who to explain if someone or something hurt him. This scares me. I am so sorry that your son had to endure that kind of treatment. It was wrong how the school handled your request. I know it’s hard to advocate for your child, i had to fight with schools a few times because they were not following his IEP and it almost seems hopeless at time…but never give up…you seem like a great mother and are doing the best you can to make this right for your son. I love the Idea of video cameras in the classroom for spcial need children…I mean why not…they put cameras in the CDC daycares on post…why not in special needs classrooms where children are at the mercy of adults. Some of these children have no voice since some can not verbally communicate what treatment they are recieveing. I think researching the rate of injuries cause by restriants in special needs classroom can help your case for pushing for cameras in the classroom. video cameras can help in many ways. 1. seeing if abuse is in the classroom. 2. are the restraints being used at the right times and in the right manner. 3. data to help the school with determining if a child needs more help, like if they need a SIS, para, aid. 4. data for the parents,IEP meeting, and teachers. I hope that you do find an lawyer that can help you…you can try advocay angencies sometimes they will offer you a lawyer to help with your case. Also sending this story to media like Austism Speaks Now and other well now speical needs sites can open up help. I pray that your son will never come in contact with those type of people who hurt your son. Know that your not alone…there are many of us mothers who worry everynight for our children and hurt inside when they hurt….never give up…contact me if there is anything I can do to help.

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  39. Bobbi
    May 27, 2012 @ 23:00:30

    I have also had a similar thing happen to my son. He was drug across the classroom floor resulting in rug burn on his back and butt. It was also reported that they would leave him in his “time out” room for up to two hours at a time. I was very frustrated with the school system. And when I reached out for help I was told my son deserved it. I don’t believe an autsitic child “deserves it” when they lack the ability to controll themselves. I completely agree with having cameras in these classrooms.

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  40. Shannon
    May 28, 2012 @ 18:52:49

    This is heartbreaking to me. I have had the honor of teaching children with special needs for the past 10 years. I have taught in a self contained classroom the past three years. It breaks my heart that teachers would treat a child like this. Those people deserve to be put under the jail for what they did to him!

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  41. Kerry
    Jun 01, 2012 @ 22:31:19

    As an educator that works with adults that are both Autistic and Intellectually Disabled, I am saddened to see that such abuse can take place, so sorry that you had to endure this 😦

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    • daisypetals2000
      Jun 02, 2012 @ 10:36:49

      Bradley’s story is horrible enough, but when you find out that it is not as much of an ‘isolated incident’ as one might think it is disheartening. Thank-you for taking care of the individuals that you teach – it is people like yourself that give families hope for the future of their loved ones. I don’t know where we would be today without the wonderful team to taught Bradley early on. I will always hold those people dear to my heart. 🙂

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  42. Denise
    Jun 04, 2012 @ 23:29:27

    We had emotional issues this year with school. We started out with our Aspergers son being bullied and then physically assaulted. He was suspended for 3 days because he defended himself and fought to get the kid off his back. I forced the assistant principal to rewrite the incident report as the original made is sound like it was our son’s fault and the names he was being called were done in teasing (I can’t even put them here). The second trimester they were convinced that he was ‘huffing’ a sharpie and was suspended for that. Funny, this is the same kid who gives himself nosebleeds with colds because he hate anything up his nose. And was also given 3 detentions for ‘insubordinate behavior’. After this I had it out with the head principal and called her on the ‘targeting’ of our son. Things calmed down at that point, but he will no longer be attending this school system next year. Because of the detrimental consequences dues to the adults( and I use this term lightly) in the Middle School, he will be repeating the 8th grade. BUT this will be done with an online accredited charter academy in our home. If this next year goes well, I will happily keep him there for high school. I know in this environment he will shine and finally be able to sprout his wings and fly.

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    • daisypetals2000
      Jun 05, 2012 @ 10:27:04

      Denise, how terrible! His story sounds very simliar to our daughter, Haley. She also has classical autism and would come home crying because the kids were mean to her, calling her names, leaving her out etc. The school told me multiple times, that Haley brought it on herself. What really? I know she is socially behind, but I don’t think that gives the kids a RIGHT to torment her. I would think it would be up to the adults in charge to correct Haley for whatever she was doing wrong and correct the children being ugly to her.

      I am going to be very honest, Haley has been MUCH happier now that she is away from the mean kids. I can monitor her social interactions myself and correct her as needed and ensure she is not hurt anymore. I know that eventually, she has to learn to deal with the world, but her self esteem is delicate and I don’t want that tanked at the age of 10. That is not fair.

      I hope you see the same things with your son – I hope you see the pain that the mean kids have caused melt away and he can be happy. 🙂

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  43. Tara Heidinger
    Jun 13, 2012 @ 16:50:50

    My son was Punched and grabbed hard in arm and Yanking him to her face as the aide Screamed in his face to stop crying. There are photos of bruise on his arm and another child saying it happen, but school is denying and now the boys are being blamed for lying because they are both Autistic. No cameras at all in this school except entrance doors. This is why I made the Facebook site called Cameras in special Needs classrooms. I am fighting for cameras all over the US. Please come visit and share stories as well. Lets protect these classrooms. https://www.facebook.com/CamerasInSpecialNeedsClassrooms

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